Being aware of our emotions means being aware of our pain. The only alternative is to mask it.
The longest journey you will make is from your head to your heart. We are all on this journey.
In the pass through effect; emotions are used to manipulate others. The one who feels the emotions and uses them to manipulate others remains unchanged.
The pursuit of external power -the ability to control and manipulate -is insisting that the circumstances you prefer are perfect for others too.
Most people go through their lives from one iceberg strike to another, from one experience of rage, or jealousy, or resentment to another. Workaholism is a way to steam full speed ahead without even posting a lookout.
The core cause of anger is a lack of self-worth. Rage is an excruciating experience of powerlessness.
An angry individual appears not to be frightened. Actually she or he is terrified. Beneath anger is pain. Beneath pain is fear.
Reaching outward to fill inner holes is the pursuit of external power. The new evolutionary pathway of human kind is looking inward, finding the source of our insecurities and healing them.
Individuals who become angry think they are familiar with their emotions because of their outbursts. They are not. Angry outbursts are painful experiences, but they are not emotional explorations.
The experience of depression without the perspective that allows it to be used as an instrument of spiritual growth is the same as drifting on an ocean of pain in a vessel that is seaworthy and not taking the time to learn how to sail it.
You reshape the world by reshaping yourself. The question is not how to change others, but how to change yourself.
Intimacy and the pursuit of external power-the ability to manipulate and control-are incompatible.
The desire to please other people is a potent way to distract yourself from what you are feeling.
As long as you do not know what you are experiencing inside, you are asleep in your life, even though you may think you are very much awake.
Intellectual endeavor and emotional awareness are not mutually exclusive, but when an intellectual pursuit becomes compulsive, it is used to divert attention away from painful emotions.
Perfectionism is looking outward in an attempt to soothe painful experiences by rearranging the external world, instead of looking inward to locate the sources of your pain and heal them.
Accomplishing the work that you were born to do is fulfilling, satisfying and blissful. It ignites your creativity.
The more painful the communication with your soul-the more painful the emotion-the more compulsive is the desire to avoid the communication. When the pain of the communication with your soul becomes intense, you are at a pivotal moment of decision.
Walking through your emotional landscape without paying attention to what is there is like walking through a meadow without paying attention to what is growing.
If you think you are a person who feels nothing, or very little, think again. Everyone feels physical pain. If pain is continually present, it begins to feel normal.
Scanning your energy processing system at each location, moment by moment, is emotional awareness. Ignoring this information will eventually cause your vehicle to break down. No illness is sudden.
Diet and exercise cannot reach the root of obsessive eating.
Medical treatment is emergency care for symptoms that developed over a long period of time. The symptom is the flower on the plant. Treating the symptom is picking the flower, while the plant remains untouched.
When you fear you cannot express yourself, or that you will not be heard if you do, you feel a constriction in your throat, or you have a hoarse or weak voice, or your neck or shoulders become tight.
Boredom is weariness following the failure to find meaning externally, and the refusal to examine the meaning of that failure. For the bored individual, lethargy and weariness replace activity.
Physical pain in the vicinity of your solar plexus is produced by fears that you cannot provide for yourself, or do what you need to do. When energy leaves the processing center near the solar plexus in fear and doubt, you feel it “in the pit of your stomach.”
Entitlement is the belief that you have the right to what you desire, regardless of what others desire. It is a perception that you are fundamentally superior. Beneath entitlement is a very different reality.
When energy leaves the processing location in your chest in love and trust, you are open and connected to all life. When energy leaves in fear and doubt, your chest hurts. “Heartache” is more than an emotional state; it is a physical condition.
Painful emotions are flags that call your attention to what you need to change in yourself.
You cannot change all of the people that make you angry, sad, or jealous, but you can change yourself. You begin that process by looking inward.
When you indulge your anger, jealousy, vengefulness, or any other form of fear, you turn your back on the nourishment the Universe provides you. Indulging in your emotions is like surrounding yourself with food and not eating. Feeling your emotions with the intention of learning from them is like eating from a banquet that never ends.
Your emotions are your best friends because they do not leave you. They bring to your attention what you need to know.
What you prefer is not superior to what others prefer.
A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.
Each emotion is a signal from your soul. When you ignore or repress emotions, you lose important information.
An authentically empowered individual is a compassionate and patient friend with herself or himself. Creating that friendship begins with emotional awareness.
When you judge others, you judge yourself. If you did not possess the characteristics you so disdain, you would not have such an emotional reaction to them.
An authentically empowered personality is so powerful that the idea of showing power through force is not even part of his or her consciousness.
When you eat to fill a hunger that food cannot satisfy, your body becomes larger than it needs to be. When you learn to receive the nourishment that the Universe provides, your body assumes a form that expresses its own balance.
Your soul is interested in how you use your energy-what you create-and whether you achieve your greatest potential. It sees the experiences of your life as part of a larger, richer, more complete picture than the one you see.
Alcohol and drug addiction are symptoms. The cause of both is intense emotional pain. When these underlying painful emotions are continually present and no effort is made to heal their causes, a dependence upon drugs and alcohol results.
The creation of authentic power confronts you with the unhealthiest parts of yourself-the parts that blame, criticize, judge, resent, envy, and hate others, yourself and the Universe. These are the parts that must be acknowledged to change them.
Stress is the consequence of resistance. When you resist circumstances in your life, you produce stress with that misplaced energy.
Power struggles are artifacts of an earlier form of human evolution that is no longer constructive-pursuit of the ability to manipulate and control.
Accepting the present moment does not mean that you cannot change your life. On the contrary, it allows you to see clearly what needs to be changed. You cannot change your life without accepting it first.
Emotional awareness allows you to walk the earth awake instead of in a self- imposed trance.
Since our origins as a species, the need to feel safe, valuable and loved has focused our attention outward. Now we are learning to look inside to find the roots of our insecurities, and to pull them out.
When you feel angry, stop what you are doing, saying, and thinking. Focus your attention on what you are feeling.
Authentic power is the alignment of your personality with your soul. It is being fully engaged in the present moment. You cannot align your personality with your soul without becoming conscious of your emotions.
Spiritual growth is replacing survival as the central objective of the human experience.